Writing Isn’t for Wimps

I survived a writers’ conference this week. While there were some less-than-stellar moments that I’d love to erase from existence, the conference was a great experience overall, and I had the opportunity to pitch my book idea to three agents. (Mentally repeating YOLO the whole time.)

Writing is a perilous endeavor in so many ways. When you write, pieces of your soul bleed onto the page. You can’t help it. For those of us who blog or publish in some form, we take it one step farther and willingly open ourselves up to public rejection. It’s hard to not take rejection personally when you’re baring pieces of your soul.

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Facing rejection is hard enough, but writers need to risk more than just sharing our words. There are risks we need to take before we ever sit down to the computer or pick up a pen. Whether it’s fiction or non-fiction, writing is about life, and we can’t write about life if we’re not experiencing it.

Life is messy and unexpected. All too often it hurts, and I don’t like pain. I want to avoid it at all costs. But if I never take any chances, then I’m going to have a hard time writing about characters who find the strength to shine in the midst of life’s darkest moments. My writing will reek of insincerity, and that guarantees rejection.

I need to make sure I’m really living, not relying on my characters to live for me. I know I have to step away from the computer once in a while and push myself to move beyond what’s comfortable because I want to be a writer and writing isn’t for wimps.

©2013 Kim Vandel

10 thoughts on “Writing Isn’t for Wimps

    1. I haven’t ruled that out, but my dream has always been traditional publishing, so I want to try that route first. I’m learning a lot in the process that will be useful if I decide to self-publish!

  1. I have found that is true no matter what we do – – we are going to open the ‘armor’ that we try to surround ourselves with just by living and interacting with others. The only time it is realitively safe is with our own family – who, although their comments may be as brutal as an outsider’s is, we can count on to love us in spite of what they say.

  2. I’m so glad you went, Kim! I loved your thoughts on writing…especially how easy it is to live inside our writing. When I first write something I LOVE being a writer. When I REWRITE I am doubting a little, but when my writing goes PUBLIC I totally doubt myself and have to remind myself I am doing this because I LOVE WRITING. Praying for good results for you. Looking forward to the day when I am asking for your autograph. 🙂

    1. Yes, the love of writing is what keeps us going, so we can’t ever lose it. We writers need to support each other and make sure to thank our readers, especially the ones who take the time to respond to our writing.

  3. Hang in there. Looking at the likes and so many for their own purpose instead of encouraging another writer. Interesting! I hope u get an agent and u become exposed and even more vulnerable and uncomfortable. When things go great all the time, life becomes boring. You step out on the narrow path and what journey of adventures await. You overcame when the goal is achieved and what stories u can share…

    1. Whether I get an agent or not, I know it was good for me to do something uncomfortable. It really is true that you have more appreciation for the things you have to work for. Doing these hard things will make the end product even more worthwhile!

      1. I know God will bless. You r a blessing and readers will be blessed from ALL the LONG HOURS u have put into this project. Tell Dave hi. I apologize if this is inappropriate for such a public forum but everyone should know the kind and gracious Kim I know.

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